celebrating mid life

This poem by Fleur Adcock is for all the women who, like me, are on the “darker side” of forty. She reminds us that there is more to beauty than flawless skin, and that the more we choose how we want to be in the world and how we want to live our lives,...

Face the fear

Do you know that something in your life needs to change, but you either don’t know how to start or where to start , or you are too afraid of where starting may take you? In attempting an answer, I turn to David Whyte. This time from the opening stanza of his...

What’s so great about fitting in?

As an only child and one of the youngest in my class I spent a lot of time in junior school trying to figure out the rules of social engagement. I managed well enough to avoid being bullied but it took me quite some time to become comfortable in my own skin and to...

Your extraordinary moment today?

What will be your extraordinary moment today? Walking up the steep hill close to my home, I snake-ease the muscles in my neck to relieve the tension that has been building all day. Just ahead of me, trudging up the hill, is a boy who is about nine-years-old. With his...

Creating the future you want

“Your future is your property. Because, by definition, it hasn’t happened yet, it exists only in your mind. This means that you can choose to make it whatever you want. The act of making your future bigger than your past is the very act of growth itself: the bigger...

Your leadership blueprint

” A prophet is not without honour, except in his own country.” Searching for Sugarman, about the enigmatic  Mexican American musician, Rodriguez, is one of the most moving films I have seen. A hugely talented musician and songwriter, Rodriguez writes...

You do not have to be good …

 How’s that for the first line of a poem? Probably not a line you would like to share, out of context, with your children or teenagers. But it’s a radical statement. Mary Oliver, the poet, isn’t exhorting us to be bad. She’s...

Fire up your creativity

Do you feel as though your creativity has dried up and that you will never write another story or poem; never paint or sink your fingers into clay again? There is  good news. Your creativity has not disappeared. You are probably just exhausted from trying to be all...

Surrender or Control?

Knowing how difficult it is for many of us to make significant changes, I have enormous admiration for the easeful way in which other forms of life surrender to changes in their external world. Recently, on a retreat at Solitude, in the Midlands, I watched an autumn...