New Year’s Resolutions?

As the first of January approaches I am reflecting, as a life, career and leadership coach, on New Year’s resolutions, why we often don’t keep them, and what we can do to change that pattern. Collins defines a New Year’s resolution as the making “of a [firm] decision at the beginning of the year to […]

Are you ready

  Sometimes we want something to change, but we keep stalling, finding excuses, thinking that if we just plug on in the way we have been doing, eventually some breakthrough will come –  in our career; our relationships; our health; our business; our dreams … Cara Leyba, in her poem Ready urges us to stop waiting; […]

celebrating the feminine

Late one Saturday evening  a young man, recently paralysed and rendered mute in an accident, is at the wedding reception  of a relative. A young woman, name and details unknown to him, is sitting on his lap. She’s stroking his face; kissing; crying; saying things to which he cannot respond. She’s more than a little […]

celebrating mid life

  This poem by Fleur Adcock is for all the women who, like me, are on the “darker side” of forty. She reminds us that there is more to beauty than flawless skin, and that the more we choose how we want to be in the world and how we want to live our lives, […]

Leading in times of change : Are you creating a fellowship or a follow – ship?

Driving along a national road, I slow down and then stop, mirroring the response of the drivers in front of me. Curious to see the cause, I watch a mother duck leading her ducklings across the busy highway. She clearly is not aware of the danger; and her offspring follow her dutifully because that’s what […]

Something significant in your life is changing; and you are in transition. In which stage of transition are you?

These words from John Denver’s song, I’m Leaving On a Jetplane, still bring tears to my eyes. As a sixteen year old  I imagined how dreadful it must have been for the girl to have her boyfriend leave so suddenly. How much it must have changed her life. Since then I have realized how our […]

The ending phase of transition: It is time to let go of….

” Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end. “ We tend not to like endings. Beginnings are so much more attractive, yet, whenever we begin something new something in our lives is also ending. William Bridges, expert on change and transition, expresses it in this way: ” We usually fail to discover our […]

Finding Direction: the neutral phase of transition

I think we have all known what it is to feel lost; to come to a place where there are no roads. As disorienting as that can be, the potential for growth is enormous. We can no longer find old solutions to familiar problems or bask in the status quo. Something needs to shift but […]